Albeit enjoyable for a handful, the entire notion of dressing up has a strangely stressful connotation attached to it, perhaps grounded in the postulation that something extra has to be done physically and one must step outside their comfort zone (which for some may be changing from pyjama bottoms into dress pants) to either impress or just merely hide the fact that they woke up 10 minutes before they needed to leave the house and they completely forgot they had a wedding on that day. Whatever it may be, the idea of having to look nice has an underlying sense of discomfort and unease. It’s the entire private school boy strict uniform regiment of polished shoes and tie pulled so close to the buttoned up collar of your ironed-shirt that you can barely breathe as you constantly tuck your shirt into your long trousers on a hot summer day. It’s the subconscious fixing of your tie in fear of reprimand and the constant menacing looks by teachers when you have a scarf on indoors or a blazer somewhere in your bag instead of sitting loosely on your pre-puberty body. Whatever justification may be used to rationalise this constant pressure on students to look respectable as representatives of the school, the stigma and self-consciousness lingers even years after graduation, and there needs to be a solution.
It all begins with drawing a distinction between dressing in something you’re confident in and dressing in order to gain confidence from the compliments of others, epitomising the entire mundane notion that looks are everything and that all other aspects in your life will flow if you look ‘on point’. While that is true to an extent, because we live in a materialistic and aesthetic-driven society, there are a select few who have searched for alternatives that boost confidence but don’t make you question everything when you find yourself awake at 3am rolling around in bed with melancholic thoughts. It’s the things usually glossed over in the busyness of everyday life that ultimately make the biggest difference. The easily forgotten, yet essential accessories you can use to accentuate what you already have rather than conceal the things you’re lacking.
If there’s anything you take from this post, it’s that you don’t need all the gold and bling to make an impact or seem as though you have your life sorted. It’s the simplicity of an accessorising piece that matters in a world full of noise and chaos. It doesn’t always have to be a facade. You just have to make the right choices.